Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Compassion for unwed mothers should be a priority


The heading of the letter to the editor “Compassion the right way to go” says it all. The letter reiterates that unwed mothers need compassion not legal action. The fine or jail term or both do not help the unwed mothers to cope with what they have done.

The unwed mothers are at a most vulnerable stage of their lives after they dumped their baby. They have been through a traumatic experience involving not just themselves but another live. They did not know who to turn to when they found out that they were carrying another life inside their body. The partner meanwhile will usually abscond from sharing the responsibility and the girl is left to her own devices.

In the end, she is punished when what the girl needs most is compassion. We know that she did something wrong. However heinous her action, does it justify the punishment meted out? Will the sentence really reform her or be a deterrent to other unwed mothers or reduce the incidences of baby dumping?

A psychological assessment of the unwed mother must be done in order to ascertain what actually triggered her actions. That should be the basis to bring her back into society and be a more responsible adult. Punishing her is not a guarantee that she would be a model citizen once the ordeal is over. Anything can happen as we do not know the state of her mind before, during and after her actions.

We have not been through what an unwed mother felt throughout the period from the point of discovering that she is carrying a child until the time that she decided to abandon the baby. That girl needs compassion, lots of it.

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