We have not given much thought in
receiving graciously as mentioned by the columnist
in today's Sunday Star. The example he gave about the two men arguing
over who should foot the bill after a meal strikes a chord. It quite
a common occurrence and I guess in corporate circles it is the norm
for those trying to be in the good books of the other to pay for the
bill. That would make the gesture hovering on a thin line between
just an ordinary goodwill gesture or an underhanded way to curry
favour.
It is quite difficult for us who have
been drummed with the mantra that the hand that gives is better than
the hand that receives to change our mindset. It is an awkward moment
when we receive something especially if the gift or payment is of
high value. There are definitely those who will misuse others'
kindness but most of us would be thinking, how on earth and when can
I return the gesture. The columnist did mention that the receiver
should not be unduly worried about the matter but try to pass on the
blessing to someone else. That is a good way to spread kind gestures
to more people and as the saying goes, what goes round comes around.
In fact, if those who give had reached
the stage where the act does not even attract attention, the receiver
might in all likelihood feel thankful being in such company. The
receiver would then pass on that gift to someone else and also try to
do it without attracting any attention to himself. It is not an easy
act to emulate but some have mastered it quite well. These special
people will always have a place in the hearts and minds of their
friends and those they have met throughout their lives.
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