Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Small gestures do have a positive effect


It is indeed heart warming to read about the encounter between a stranger and a special child. The simple gesture of holding out his hand to be reciprocated in kind most probably mean a lot to the child. We do not know what exactly is in the child's mind when he does something but the smile on his face does indicate a happy feeling and warmth that another person has taken his gesture in kind. It is also sad that according to the child's mother, a lot of people mistook the gesture as begging for money.

Our perception is always coloured by first impressions. The veneer and outer layer seem to dazzle or dim our view of people the first time we set eyes on them. In this case it is a child, a special child who did not ask to be born that way and is not seeking sympathy but only understanding. I wonder how does the child feel if we did not take hold of his hand. Most probably still smiling since he has not mastered the difference between acceptance and rejection. I would second a guess that the smile would not linger that long as the expected warmth of another hand was not felt. He would then know that his gesture was not accepted and might be wondering whether he has done anything wrong.

The child had touched the person not just physically but made a good start to his Monday morning. A simple gesture with a rippling effect which should be emulated by others too. We are so busy and trying to squeeze in as much work or activity in the little time that we have that we tend to forget the little things in life. Taking the hand that was extended might seem inconsequential but little gestures do make a difference to us and the other person. Stop and ponder the next time you see a smiling face in our everyday rush to get to our next appointment or meeting. That simple gesture is just asking us to respond in kind. Remember it takes fewer muscles to smile than it does to frown.

Image from welcomebabyuc

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